Raising a baby is not easy especially if you are new parents. Thus, it’s important for you to know how and when to ask for help.
We do admit, it’s not easy trying to communicate our needs clearly with others and sometimes, they don’t fully understand either.
This is why new parents are prone to psychological turbulence which include postpartum anxiety etc.
What you have missed though is how easy it is to ask for help.
Trying to care for your baby alone can be foolish sometimes. Even if you are a single mom, your family might be there trying to help you as much as they could.
You need to commit a certain amount of energies to be able to muster through the ups and downs of being a parent.
Maybe you need to be in a support group? Maybe you need to read a book on a topic of parenting? Or maybe you need to ask experts what you should do next.
Read this article to find out more.
#1 You need to know what you need first before asking
Being a parent can be tiring which means, at a time you might have some difficulties trying to think straight.
You know you need to ask for help but you aren’t sure what to get help for.
It’s a common situation that leaves the overwhelming feeling of helplessness eating you alive from the inside.
The thing is, you can solve this with a simple activity; writing!
You need to jot down your struggles and try to find help in a systematic order.
Writing things down would let you strategise what is your next move to keep your sanity intact.
Once you have found your priority, you can put your plan in motion.
#2 Try to list down what you need to do on a daily basis
Trying to carry out your daily routine task while caring for a baby can be a struggle.
You will often realise that you need to ask for help from someone to help better manage your life while being able to care for the little one.
It can be helpful if you can list down what you need to do in a day.
Tick any task which has been done, and when someone comes to help you, just hand them out the list.
They would know what to do next and you don’t need to think in situ of what you are going to need them to do to help you out.
#3 Follow up is not a rude thing to do
When someone has agreed to help you and they didn’t show up yet, it’s not rude to follow up.
Maybe they caught up in something, or they are sick and wouldn’t be able to help you.
Whatever it is, this tip would let you know what to do next.
You can ask for help from other people or you can just power through and get it done yourself when you find the right opportunity to do it.
You can ask for help from your family members if your husband is busy.
This is why some families prefer their daughter to stay with them for a short period postpartum.
It’s to help the new mother adapt to the new environment of being a mother.
#4 Ask for help from an expert
There are a few professionals which you can turn to for advice like paediatricians, family therapists and lactation consultants if you have a much more specific enquiry.
If nothing else seems to be working, it’s time to get serious and spend some time researching which experts would be suited to ask for help from.
It’s not easy trying to find the right person for the job but once it clicks, you will be getting a major change in the way you manage life with the little one.
If you are confused, just asked your paediatrician since you are going to have a regularly scheduled appointment anyway.
#5 Try to search for a suitable online platform
Trying to vent your frustration in your Twitter account might seem to work but it’s difficult trying to find a workable solution.
Fortunately for you, there are a variety of websites out there which offer a multitude of parenting services or professional advice, online.
It’s suited for moms who are too busy, juggling with their career to even ask for help from someone else.
Plus having a platform with thousands of parents can really help enrich your life with useful advice. No BS.
#6 Well, you can use social media, no problem
Social media can be helpful at a time. Sometimes, it can be downright cruel.
Depending on your online social circle, using social media can help make it easy for you to ask for help.
There are a variety of online groups on social media which have been created to enable sharing sessions. You can even post some questions.
However, you need to control usage time and ensure you are not drifting apart.
After all, social media can be addictive, no?
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